Reunions, weddings, family gatherings, pretty much any social event… They all bring the urge to have a date at your side to make it all bearable. It’s inevitable. You get that invitation in the mail saying that your friend from college is getting married. And you, as a single person start thinking of all the people you could invite to go with you so you’re not alone. Or that movie that just came out in theaters that looks SO good. But when you think about sitting in the theater without someone next to you, it loses it’s appeal. Or going out to that restaurant that serves magic happiness on a plate by yourself is too daunting of a task when sitting alone in a booth is the requirement. Now don’t get me wrong, going out with your friends makes some of these things easier than going it alone. But sometimes it’s just me, myself, and I.
Why are we like this? Why do we think that going out by yourself to enjoy things is a hurdle that takes a lot more than a running start to get over? We are strong, independent beings who don’t require someone to hold our hands to get wherever we’re going. And yet, when we go out to somewhere, we require the crutch of our phones, or a book, or headphones. Anything to make it look like we’re handling the situation.
I am guilty of doing all of these things. But a couple of weeks ago, I went to a movie theater alone. And watched a movie with a bunch of strangers all by myself. And you know what happened? I enjoyed a wonderful movie. Not once did I experience piercing stares of what I imagined would be accompanying the thoughts of “Wow, she’s here all by herself?” And I have no idea why I was worried.
It’s not a big deal! The world didn’t come screeching to a stop. There is no unwritten law that says you can’t go somewhere that you think requires a date all by yourself. Believe me, I’ve checked. That mentality is hard to get over, I know. But trust me, if you just put yourself out there, it won’t be as bad as you think it will be.
The harshest critic is always your inner voice. Sometimes you gotta tell it to shut up and sit down. To all the single people out there, keep doing you. Go eat out at your favorite restaurant. Go dance the night away at a party. No one is judging. In fact, most people will think you are a confident badass and applaud you. Because you are. And we don’t need someone to tell us that.